My favorite old people, Ma and Dad, are 78 and almost 81, respectively. What I find very unnerving, within the last few years, is how afraid they are of the world. For example, my mother will NOT put outgoing bills in her mailbox for the postal worker to pick up. Nope. She drives them to either the big blue mailbox in front of the Hamel, IL post office or, if she’s “up town” in Edwardsville, drops them in the big blue mailboxes there. “Someone could come along and steal the checks out of our mailbox.” I suppose so, but how they’re gonna get away with depositing a check written out to Verizon or the cable company is beyond me.
I live west of downtown St. Louis, MO. St. Louis is the new Detroit (i.e., Murder Capital USA). When it’s a beautiful night, I leave my windows opened in my first-floor condo. I figure that if someone wants me that badly, it won’t matter how many locks, etc. I have. My parents lock up every door and window on the first floor of their home on 35 acres. They live in the boonies. “Well, Route 55 is not that far from the farm. Somebody could easily come here and kill us.” Sure. Ok. My folks have 5 dogs, two are huge German Shepherd Dogs. Even if somebody wanted to hike from Route 55, over MANY MANY acres of farmland to specifically target my folks, they’d have to get through 5 dogs, all of which would want to take a bite out of whatever body part was available. If, miraculously, they got upstairs to hurt my folks, there are several loaded guns just waiting for them. I hope Mom will be the one shooting – Pa can’t hit the broad side of a barn.
Is it just that the P’s watch too much news? Is it AARP purposely perpetuating stories of seniors being scammed, hurt, etc.? I don’t know where these fears come from. And my folks will not listen to reason.
I would just hate to live in fear all of the time. Yes, I understand that seniors DO get scammed, their homes broken into, etc., but I certainly don’t think my folks need to worry to the extent that they do.
Anyone else with ageing parents have the same issues?